Schizotypal Disorder Resources & Support Forum

This post has made me think a lot about relationships lately. I have always been such a romantic.

do you feel different when you are in a relationship? I am trying my best to let this person get close, like they wanted to... I feel I am doing good so far, they seem to be very understanding and don't push or pressure me. I am starting to feel confused though, I want this relationship and I like this person, but when I am alone I get scared and think about running away from it.

I don't have much time to myself lately, and it bothers me a little bit... but when I am constantly with someone, I start to feel normal and I am not so annoyed with the crowds. Something like that, I am having trouble explaining this...

I’ve never been in a relationship, and I’m not sure I will ever be in one because I don’t feel comfortable around anyone else (even my parents sometimes). I do think about it though. I think I would be a hard person to love.

If you found a perfect love who always understands you and SURELY loves you no matter how you are, would you change inside? And how?

does anyone believe in a soul mate?

I have been in a relationship for nearly 20 years..It isnt ideal though...not loving or caring, we dont share secrets and he isnt supportive. I also have two children. It has been really dificult. I beleive in souls mates and contantly fantasize about it..even though I am in a relationship, I feel it is not the one I am supposed to be in...and anyday now, someone is gonna come along...

I met someone just over a month ago, and things are turning out great. I just gets better every day...

But I don't believe in soul mates, even though this might be as close as I've ever been to it.

Ralationships don't help. Being with someone makes the paranoia and ideas of refference and the magical thinking even worse. Chances are, if they at least like you back, they will forgive a lot of the odd behavior and thoughts. But using another person to get better is dispicable. Sanity is not a ballance where you can "steal" some from the people around you because they are more sane than you. Then again- weirder relationships have lasted from even weirder motives and circumstances. It honnestly sounds like your therapist is grasping at straws and doesn't want to deal with you anymore. He's trying to pass you off to a theoretical lover. I would consider switching therapists if you can, to someone who isn't overwhelmed by you. Maybe a cognitive behaviorlist, gestalt/jungian, or try something new. I don't think your "love life" is the problem, having low affect and fear of other people comes with the SPD territory. We can live without lovers, we can't live with shitty therapists who want us out of their hair. He or she is getting paid to listen, and s/he better fucking listen or find another job. That's just my opinion. I've been in a relationship for 7 years and it has been really rocky, (All my fault, of course) and it does not help my insanity. Only I can do that. It is not like the movie "a beautiful mind" the neuro network in your brain you were born with that makes you this way doesn't give a shit if someone loves you. They will still insist the mafia is after you or aliens, or whatever. Sorry to sound harsh, love isn't impossible for us and it is worth having no matter who you are - but love won't regrow a limb or cure your cancer and love won't fix your mind. Your doctor is an asshole.

A man lived with a schizotypal woman for years and at first he was in love with her strange issues, later he didn't bear them.

I am not skilled but I heard this disorder can be caused by neglect and lack of love. So why couldn't love help it?